Day 3 of PE’s Affirmation Challenge, here we are! I don’t know about you, but these topics have felt super-powerful to me…I just can’t imagine what the next twelve themes could possibly entail. But anticipation is probably half the fun, right? xD
Day three is about identifying where you might be blocking yourself from achieving your dreams or goals, and what beliefs you hold that are causing it. A lot of this can be identified with negative self-talk, such as, “I can’t/I won’t/I don’t know how/It’s too difficult/I’ll fail…” etc.
For me, the goal, the dream I have doubts about is my financial independence. I want to make money by doing what I want to do on my own time. I want to see my passions and values be the driving force behind the work I do. I want the freedom that comes with being your own boss. Not gonna lie, I’m heavily inspired by Celes — the maker of this challenge. It’s her life and accomplishments that have made me consider that I want a life like hers, too!
While I don’t explicitly tell myself “I can’t,” I have plenty of nagging thoughts behind this goal:
- I don’t have enough good ideas (or conversely, “What if I can’t create a focus?”
- I feel like what I want to do has been done before
- I feel like I have nothing new to share
- I’m afraid what I’ll do is too similar to X/Y/Z
- I want to be open about myself and my ideas, but I’m afraid of what others will think
- I don’t think I have enough experience
These doubts weigh on me; even if I’m not telling myself I can’t, it feels like my mind is trying hard to convince myself I can’t anyway!
So now for the hard part: reframing these beliefs to be positive instead!
- As I learn more and more about myself and what I’m passionate about, I’ll come up with more and more ideas to try out. There may or may not be a true “focus” to what I do, but that doesn’t need to be a bad thing.
- Even if what I want to do has been done before, that doesn’t mean I can’t do it differently/better/with my own insights to offer.
- Even if what I’m sharing isn’t “new,” there’s always new ways to share and present things. The uniqueness of my own voice and presentation is important enough in its own right. Besides, most likely I will have something new to add!
- I don’t necessarily have to be open about myself and my ideas right away — that can always come later, or not at all.
- The only way to get experience is to get out there and try.
My next action steps will be as follows:
- Take time to think if there’s any other root cause of my hesitation to go after my goal, and if so, figure out a new line of thought
- Continue my course on Android App development that I’ve been putting off
- Identify my true passions and values — then brainstorm how to work them into my own independent creation!
Well, that’s it for today! Thinking about both Day 2 and 3’s goals in the same day has really taken a lot out of me, but I feel like it’s worth it!
What goals and dreams are you guys going after? How’s your Affirmation Challenge going? Let me know in the comments! =)